Be a More Natural You

Before leaving Arkansas to come home for the summer, I made a giant list of things I wanted to accomplish over the summer. Some things were small like getting an oil change, but other things were big like finding a place to live and picking my classes for the fall semester. Most of all, I had a lot of things I thought I absolutely “needed” to do for my blog to be a good blogger.

hask essential oils collection

I kind of got it in my head that this would be my last summer to fully devote to blogging. I’m planning on applying to internship programs throughout this next school year in the hopes of having one next summer and then the summer after that I’ll be *gulp* graduating and will hopefully be off to work a job.

Like I’ve said before, I never intend to stop blogging, but as someone who works a flexible internship from the comfort of my own home, I put a lot of pressure on myself to really “push myself” this summer.

And you know what? I think I crossed about two things off that list. Eventually, my computer started quitting on me in terms of space and memory, so I had to wipe it clean, spend 70 bucks on an external hard-drive, and the sticky note on my desktop screen that held my long list of to-dos was deleted.

A lot of the things I had put on the list really weren’t “me”. In fact, the more I thought about it, they would just take away from the personality my blog has. I love that this blog is growing into a business and it makes me so happy that where I am now is where I had hoped I would be when I started. However, that doesn’t mean I (or you – if you have a blog) ever need to compromise who I am and what the “natural” me is to achieve any of my goals.

If you don’t want to ever switch to Wordpress, don’t. If you don’t really care about growing you email list to 3,000 subscribers then don’t lose sleep over it. If it doesn’t feel very “you” to start a Youtube channel or a podcast, don’t worry about putting it on your list of things you want to accomplish.

I think the turning point for me was when I had a brand new, clean hard drive. I moved the pictures I really cared about over to external storage and I just had a few important documents living on my computer. There was no “here’s how to be a great blogger” to-do list haunting me each time I logged on to my desktop, and I felt ready to focus on being a more natural me.

I’ve really enjoyed talking to you guys on Instagram more – I like sharing my thoughts and feelings even when it comes out a bit sappy or whiney. It’s me and I like feeling like there are real people out there listening to real issues and real thoughts and real emotions.

I would challenge you to be a more natural you. Just think of one way in your life that you’re trying to live by how other’s say you should. Maybe you’ve been trying to wing you eyeliner for the past 2 years because that’s what all the cool Instagram people out there do, but you secretly hate the extra 7 minutes it adds to your makeup routine. Maybe you’ve been stressing out over being the person who can “do it all” at work and it would be better for you to just focus on doing what you’re assigned and doing it well. Maybe you prefer to stay in on a Friday night and watch a movie you’ve seen 37 times with your dog. Just do that!

Just for giggles, I wrote a list of things that make me feel like I’m the most “natural” version of myself when I do them:

-Going to bed at 9:30pm even when my house is full of people staying up and having fun

-Wearing the same outfit two days in a row because the only people who will know are my friends on Snapchat and the guy at the drive thru at Chickfila

-Posting a picture on Instagram with a loooong caption about something I’m passionate about, knowing most people might scroll past and that’s ok

-Not wearing makeup for 4 days straight and then finally only putting makeup on to take an Instagram picture

-Going over to my boyfriend’s 3 days in a row just to watch HGTV and talk about my day with him

-Reading for fun in public where people walk by and probably assume I’m studying for a very important class, but really I’m just reading a book I’ve read 6 times and memorizing my favorite paragraphs

-Putting on a hair mask and a face mask at the same time and then walking around the house in a giant t-shirt  

-Being weirdly obsessed with dogs. As you can tell. 

hask hair new essential oils collection

new hask essential oils collection

I got the inspiration to write this post when my friends at Hask told me about their new additions to their essential oils collection and sent them over. I’ve written about Hask a couple times before since they are my favorite hair care brand and my favorite people to partner with on Cristina Was Here. I’ve shared about natural beauty products and natural beach waves, but I wanted to talk about being a more natural you.

By the way – the chia seed oil and superfruit shampoo & conditioner….HOLY. MOLY. My hair is so soft and so voluminous! And they both smell quite amazing 🙂 You can find them at Ulta!

So back to being a natural you….

It’s something that I think we lose touch of today. I’m guilty of sitting on social media for several hours a day and saying “I want my hair like hers”, “I want her closet”, “I wish my blog had that layout”, and “Man, maybe I should really try to go out sometime and not watch Netflix again on Saturday night”, but then I remember that I just wouldn’t be me if I let all that get to me.

So here’s a challenge my lovely reader friends, if you’ve read all the way till now (didn’t know there was gonna be a test, did ya?! haha!) please tell me in the comments below when you feel like you are the most natural you. Then ask yourself, have I been letting myself do that or be that lately?

X,

Cristina

  • I needed to read this post at exactly this moment, so thanks so much for really opening up and posting this to help us all !

    I feel like in blogging, like you said, you feel like there are certain things you need to do in order to “have a better blog” but then that just takes away from the authenticity we all love to read.

    Also guilty of only wearing make-up because you know an Instagram is going to be involved, lol.

    Have an awesome week,
    Jamie.

  • Cristina, you are so cute!! I’ve been so busy lately I feel like I haven’t even had the opportunity to think about what the most natural me is!! But I mean, I’m crazy and I embrace it so that’s a start, right?

    Rachel / http://www.seashellsandsparkles.com

  • I love this and so needed to hear this!! I feel like I’ve been trying so hard to make my blog noticeable that I’m not writing about the things that made me want to blog I’m he beginning! So needed this to remind myself why I started!

  • I loved this post! I feel like being a more natural you is such a great perspective. Not to mention that I basically feel like you wrote your “natural” version list about me! I wear the same outfit for days, go to sleep like a granny and don’t worry about FOMO, IG captions, hair and face masks, all of it! Loved!

    – Rachel | http://www.theconfusedmillennial.com

  • I love this post! I think it’s so cute and so true! So what you want to do and be how you want to be despite who it may be done most of the time of social media! Thanks for sharing!

  • Such a great post, This is so cute and very true!! BTW your puppy is sooo cute!!

    http://xoxobella.com

  • Okay Cristina, I LOVED this post! You really hit the nail on the head when you were talking about how you shouldn’t do anything that doesn’t feel good or important to yourself. And as for your question, I feel like I’m my most natural self when I’m at the library with a cup of coffee!
    -Anna | http://www.fivefootandfabulous.com

  • I could not agree with you more on this! I had a list of so many blogging things I wanted to accomplish and the more I thought about it…I started thinking that I just want to blog because I enjoy it. I doubt many people really care about what I have to say but at least I am being me. I have used a few of Hask products and I really liked them!

  • Aww I love this! I think we should work on doing things that make us happy – not just because we feel like we need to.

    xoxo, Jenny

  • I love this! I think I feel like the most natural version of myself the moment I get home from work. The first thing I do is change into pajamas or sweatpants and a t-shirt! Sloppy clothes, no makeup on, wearing a face mask, chilling with a cup of tea and Gilmore Girls on in the background. That’s my favorite version of myself!

  • I always feel the most natural in the early morning! Great post.

    Alix | http://www.apintsizedlife.com

  • You’re seriously too cute. It’s so important to be yourself!

  • Lovely post dear! It is so cool to be natural..

    http://www.tessyonyia.com

  • I loved this post! I feel like the most natural me when I can laugh at anything and everything and not care who judges me!

    Tori

  • I completely agree! It’s important to be you and especially blog about what you love. I have been working really hard to make my blog my full-time gig at times it’s frustrating that it’s not an overnight sensation but in the same sense I enjoy being who I am and building from there. I feel being natural is the only way to live authentically!

  • Nothing ever beats walking around in a face mask and hair mask with a giant t shirt! I live for those pamper nights! I love your message for this post, bloggers now sometimes need to realize we need to see more of them instead of a pretty outfit post. I have trouble being too much of “do this” “do that” and what I want to try to do is be more personal with my followers. Bloggers who share who they truly are are my favorite bloggers!

    Alyson | My Life as Alyson

  • What a great message in this post!! Being unique is so important in the blogging world I think. 🙂

    xoxo A
    http://www.southernbelleintraining.com

  • This was so genuine and refreshing to hear. I just started blogging back in May, and when I started was so excited to share my life and my thoughts and advice, but then I became overwhelmed with my content not looking like other blogger’s. Then I realized that that’s the point. If we were all the same then what would be the point of readers following more than one blogger? Thanks for the reminder to be more natural!

  • Amy

    This has to be one of my favorite posts that you’ve done! I loved this and really needed to “hear” (read) this. I feel like especially this past summer I’ve started to lose sight on myself and what I want, hopefully this up coming school year I can get back on track and “find myself” again. Thank you for sharing this!!
    xoxo
    Amy | Pastel N Pink

  • I’m the most natural me when I’m home with my siblings ((I’m the oldest of 5)) and helping them out. Whether that be advice, picking out clothes, baking, you name it!

    -Morgan
    How 2 Wear It [] http://how2wearit.com

  • Elana

    I love this post! I also have been wanting to introduce a natural makeup routine so this is super helpful.

  • I definitely feel that same pressure to be a “Good Blogger” by hitting certain goals or accomplishments. Ultimately I agree with you – I don’t think it’s making us better communicators or happier people! Thanks for this really great reminder. I’ll be coming back to this blog for more inspiration!

  • Great post!! I definitely needed this 🙂